Kalkavage was my Freshman seminar tutor, Freshman chorus instructor, someone I looked forward to talking to, wrote recommendation letters for graduate school, and sat on my Senior Oral panel. I heard the nickname and rumors, but assumed (naively) 'if he'd done something wrong or hurtful, there's no way they'd keep him around." Absolutely devastating to learn the details surrounding his departure and its dragged up so many unpleasant memories. This is but another pattern of Tutor to Student inappropriate conduct amidst a campus of indifference. A tutor left or was dismissed while I was a student for unwanted advances and attention to a student (as I recall, details are fuzzy now). A tutor emeritus invited me to his home and made multiple invitations to me that I might be a homosexual given me literary interests. He even tried to point out that how I spoke suggested I was gay - after sharing with me his own sexual proclivities and remarking on my "stature". I developed a deep friendship with another tutor, encouraged her to sleep with me, and was devastated when she cut off contact after. I was 21, poorly medicated, and falling apart. It took me a decade to realize how different choices and consequences are for someone in their 30s-40s. A college in isolation, that can't identify and treat mental illness, and has poor boundaries and expectations from those in power, is going to generate mountains of harm and create more predation. I live in regret of my own untreated mental health while there and the harm it caused, but with an even bigger resentment that a school with so much to say on virtue, justice, circumspection, and community isn't terribly different than any other institution scrambling to cover its tracks. Release the !@#$! statement.
Kalkavage was my Freshman seminar tutor, Freshman chorus instructor, someone I looked forward to talking to, wrote recommendation letters for graduate school, and sat on my Senior Oral panel. I heard the nickname and rumors, but assumed (naively) 'if he'd done something wrong or hurtful, there's no way they'd keep him around." Absolutely devastating to learn the details surrounding his departure and its dragged up so many unpleasant memories. This is but another pattern of Tutor to Student inappropriate conduct amidst a campus of indifference. A tutor left or was dismissed while I was a student for unwanted advances and attention to a student (as I recall, details are fuzzy now). A tutor emeritus invited me to his home and made multiple invitations to me that I might be a homosexual given me literary interests. He even tried to point out that how I spoke suggested I was gay - after sharing with me his own sexual proclivities and remarking on my "stature". I developed a deep friendship with another tutor, encouraged her to sleep with me, and was devastated when she cut off contact after. I was 21, poorly medicated, and falling apart. It took me a decade to realize how different choices and consequences are for someone in their 30s-40s. A college in isolation, that can't identify and treat mental illness, and has poor boundaries and expectations from those in power, is going to generate mountains of harm and create more predation. I live in regret of my own untreated mental health while there and the harm it caused, but with an even bigger resentment that a school with so much to say on virtue, justice, circumspection, and community isn't terribly different than any other institution scrambling to cover its tracks. Release the !@#$! statement.